INTRODUCTION :
Two years ago, I was congratulating a young Muslimah on her engagement. She had grown up in my community and I had known her since before she could talk. I had seen her blossom from a waddling toddler into a confident and Umm Muladhat — 5 — intelligent young woman. She began looking for a husband in her last year of college, wanting to get married before starting medical school. After multiple dead-ends, she finally found a man who met all her criteria for marriage. Everything about this guy was perfect. He was religious, good-looking, volunteered at the masjid, had a stable job, was known for his kindness to youngsters at the masjid, and was loved by the elders like he was their own nephew. It was a perfect match. She was thrilled about starting married life and you could see the happiness emanating from her as everyone gave her their best wishes.
A few months later, I ran into her at a dinner party and asked how married life was suiting her. She simply said it was “Fine”, but I could tell something was wrong.
After some cajoling, she shamefully admitted the truth. Her sex life was horrible. In fact, it was fast becoming non-existent. She had been a model Muslimah her entire life. Before marriage, she had never so much as held a non-mahram’s hand, let alone become physically intimate with one. She had eagerly looked forward to marriage as a chance to finally indulge in all the physical The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex — 6 — intimacy she had postponed for the sake of Allah.
But it wasn’t working.
Coming from the medical field, she knew all the relevant biology. She could draw and label all the parts of the male and female anatomy. She had taken fiqh classes and knew the legal rulings of menstruation and intercourse. But she didn’t know the sex.
Oh, she knew the mechanics. Insert penis into the vagina. Climax. Withdraw. But she didn’t know how to make her husband yearn for her in bed. She didn’t know what he liked. She didn’t even know what she liked! They had begun eagerly but after a few weeks, realized that neither of them was truly enjoying having sex with the other.
As I talked more to her, I found out that she had never orgasmed during sex. Not once in the six months, she’d been married. She shyly confessed to me that she had been masturbating since high school and was afraid that she had ruined her body doing it. She thought maybe she had Umm Muladhat — 7 — conditioned herself to only enjoy self-pleasure.
She couldn’t look me in the eyes as she asked if that was the reason why she couldn’t orgasm with her husband. And so began my impromptu sex skills workshop. I threw at her all the information I’d gathered over years of marriage. Things I’d learned from experience, tidbits I’d gleaned from friends, and tips I’d picked up from magazine articles. One thing here, two things there. All those bits had accumulated into a very healthy and robust sex life between my husband and me. I gave her everything, fervently hoping that it would help her in her marital life.
A month later, I saw her again. This time she had a gigantic smile on her face. “Please, write this down and share it with other Muslim girls. No one teaches this. We’re thrown into marriage and only know the fiqh and the biology.” I
wrote down everything I told her on a Word document and emailed it to her. She shared it with her friends who were newly married. They shared it with their friends. Before long, word trickled back to me that people were asking me to write a book on the subject. The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex — 8 — So here it is. Perhaps you’re getting married soon and are apprehensive about sex. Maybe you’ve been married for a few years and your bedroom life has become dull. Or maybe you’re already in a raunchy, fulfilling sexual relationship with your husband and are looking for something extra to spice it up.
This book is for all of you.
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